To The Woman With The Screaming Child: Don't Worry, I Know You Are Doing Your Best

This post has been on my heart for quite some time now.

It all started two months ago during Mass. My family and I were sitting in the cry room (my three year old has been having trouble sitting through Mass lately, hence the cry room) in the back row enjoying the service when a woman and her young daughter took the seat in front of us. From the moment this woman entered the pew her little girl was crying, not really crying more like screaming. It was obvious the mother was extremely embarrassed and frustrated. Her daughter looked to be around the age of 5? I couldn't tell for sure how old she was because she never spoke. No matter what this mother did her daughter continued to scream. The mother was calm at first but as the minutes ticked by she became more and more frustrated. Sitting her daughter roughly in the pew, speaking sternly and sharply to her, etc.

I did my best to pay attention to Mass so I would not add to her embarrassment (it is an awful feeling when all eyes are on you and your child is misbehaving). I began to silently pray for his woman. "Lord please grant her patience, help her to see beyond her child's misbehavior, please help her".

There was another woman in the pew with this struggling mother who also recognized she was having a hard time. It was during the sign of peace that I witnessed a very beautiful moment. The woman on the left of the struggling mother reached out and touched her shoulder gently and gave her a warm smile. The struggling mother smiled with relief and said quietly, "It has been a rough day".

It is so easy to judge. Instead of a caring gesture, the woman to the left could have passed judgment, instead she offered hope and encouragement through a smile.

If you have ever had a misbehaving child in public you know what it feels like to be judged.

It reminds me of a time recently when I took my two young boys to the small quiet grocery store in town. My three year old began to throw a HUGE fit because he wanted a treat. If you want to talk about a bad place for my child to misbehave, this would be it. I think if you listened closely you would be able to hear a pin drop, the store is that quiet.

When my son is throwing a fit he is very determined and LOUD. The entire store was filled with his screaming. Even though I really wanted to shove my items onto a random shelf and cover my face, I calmly and quickly grabbed the last few items on my list and stood in the checkout line while he continued to throw a fit. I saw numerous judgmental stares and a few understanding smiles. Those understanding smiles were worth a million dollars! The last thing I needed in that moment was judgment. I can still see the grocery store owners wide eyes as he rang up my items.

I cried on the way home, telling myself I would avoid that store for a couple years to avoid anyone recognizing me!

What I'm trying to say is, I know raising children isn't always easy. I know you are tired momma. I know you need a break and it has been a rough day. I know you need a smile.

Next time you see a struggling mother, show her understanding instead of judgment.

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To the mother with the screaming child: it's ok, I have been in your shoes and I know you are doing your best.

Perfect Pasta Salad

One of my favorite side dishes to bring to summertime BBQ's is a good ol' pasta salad. Pasta salad is super simple to whip up in a hurry and tastes great!

Perfect Past Salad Recipe

12 oz Spiral Pasta Noodles 
Can of Sliced Olives (2.25 oz)
4 oz Sliced Pepperoni
2 Mozzarella cheese sticks (cut into rounds)
1/2 Green Pepper  (cut into strips)
1/2 Cucumber (peeled and cut into rounds)
2 Cups Zesty Italian Dressing

Cook your pasta according to the package directions. Once the pasta is cooked, drained and cooled place in a large serving dish. Add in your can of olives, pepperoni, cheese, green pepper, and cucumber. Next pour in one cup of salad dressing and stir until pasta is evenly coated. Allow the pasta salad to chill for one hour. Before serving add in the remanding cup of italian dressing and stir to incorporate. Serve immediately. Enjoy!

This recipe is linked to: SassyMomsInTheCity

Mommy Monday: Tips For Mothers With Baby #3

First of all congratulations! Baby number three is a huge adjustment, well it was for me anyways. Baby #3 means that you are now outnumbered even with your partners help. My mother (who raised 7 children) says that adjusting to the third child was the hardest for her. So I guess its smooth sailing after the third! Haha I wish.

Even though this is my third child I do not feel like an expert in child rearing, at all. I wanted to share with you some tips that I have learned along the way thus far (I still have a lot to learn she is only 7 weeks old). Oh and please know to take it easy for as long as you need after the baby is born. Giving birth is not easy!

Tip #1
Get the baby on a sleep schedule. I allowed little miss to show me the way when it came to her sleep schedule. After I noticed she was taking longer naps during the day (at 6 weeks babies can sleep up to four hours without eating) I took a week and wrote down when she would go to sleep and when she would wake up. It was pretty consistent. She typically will wake up in the mornings around 8 and go down for a short nap about two hours later. When she wakes from her nap (which is usually two hours long) she will be awake for two to three hours and take another nap. The second nap is longer usually around three to four hours. By then it is in the evening and she will hang out with us for a couple hours and be in bed by nine. As she gets older I know her nap schedule will change (newborns sleep a lot!). I am pretty easy going with the nap schedule but I make sure she is in bed by nine every night, I want bedtime to be consistent.

Tip #2
When baby is napping get things done! When I had my first, I would nap when he napped (which was amazing! He was such a cuddly baby I feel like that is all we did). When you have multiples, mommy naps go out the window. My other children need my attention, the laundry needs folded, the house needs picked up, someones behind needs wiped, the list goes on and on. If you are super tired try putting on a movie for the older kids and lay on the couch beside them for a short snooze (I am a light sleeper so this works for me once in awhile).

Tip #3
Do not be afraid to ask for help. If you have family and friends that live nearby do not be ashamed to ask for help if you need it. I have a hard time accepting help even when I need it so I totally understand avoiding this but it will benefit everyone, including the person helping you. It is good for the soul to help others!

Tip #4
If you like a tidy house I suggest making a cleaning schedule, a couple small things to get done everyday. This will help keep things manageable and reduce stress. On the weeks that my cleaning schedule goes out the window I find myself cramming it all into one day which isn't enjoyable for anyone.

Tip #5
Keep a calendar posted where it is easy to see. If I didn't have a calendar hanging on the fridge I would forget what day it is not to mention what events we have going on!

Tip #6
Make sure the older siblings feel important too. A baby needs lots of attention so make sure the older siblings can help out with small things. Even if it is 5 minutes a day try to spend one on one time with each of them individually. I try to watch the boys play cars while I am feeding the baby/getting her to sleep instead of being alone with the baby while they play together.

Tip #7
Don't forget about mommy time. Everyone needs different amounts of alone time, some may need very little while others require more. I like to think I fall somewhere in-between the two but don't get me wrong if I do not have 'me' time I will have a mini meltdown. My 'me' time starts when the kids are tucked in bed for the night (this is where a consistent bedtime comes in handy). I stay up a little later than I should but I need that time to zone out at the end of the day and relax or take a shower! Don't forget about yourself momma, your state of mind influences those around you.

Tip #8
Let go of the mommy guilt. Relax, breathe, know that this time will pass in the blink of an eye. If things are tough right now, know that tomorrow is another day and it will get better. Your family dynamic is different now and even though you need to spend more time with your newborn, your older children know that they are loved.

Tip #9
Take it one day at a time. Some days will go smoothly and you will feel like supermom. Use those days to get you through the tough ones. I have had more than a few tough days! Know that tomorrow is another day and it will get better.

If your house looks like this sometimes… don't worry mind does too!

Ok that is all I got for now!
Do you have any tips for Mothers with Baby #3? If so, I would love to hear about it.

Sweet Summertime: Baked Zucchini

I hope everyone is having a wonderful summer! One of my favorite vegetables during the summer is zucchini, or really just squash in general. I love it because it is easy to grow, easy to cook and easy to eat!

Here is a super simple recipe that we enjoy every summer.

Baked Zucchini

1 large zucchini
2 tbl butter
1/2 tsp garlic salt (or to taste)

Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Slice your zucchini into rounds, then slice the rounds into quarter pieces. Place zucchini pieces into a baking dish. Divide the tablespoons of butter into four pieces and distribute among the baking dish. Next sprinkle the garlic salt on top. Cook for 30-45 minutes, until squash is soft. Give the squash a good stir after the butter has melted (about 5 minutes) and another good stir before serving. Serve immediately. 

I like to cook yellow squash this way or I also will cook zucchini and squash together using butter and garlic salt and it is also delish!


This recipe is linked to: sassy moms in the city, orgjunkie

Veggie Plate for Picky Eaters

I recently got into the habit of cutting up whatever vegetables that I have on hand and placing them on the table while I am preparing lunch for the kids to snack on. I had no ideal how much my kids would enjoy this simple idea. My kids are not the pickiest eaters around but they most definitely turn up their noses to vegetables on occasion.

I love this idea because it makes vegetables more fun. Instead of mom (me) placing a vegetable on their plate at mealtime, they are in charge of how much and what vegetable they would like to try. Also because I set out the veggie plate before lunch, they tend to eat more vegetables because they are hungry instead of filling up with whatever is on their plate at mealtime and leaving the vegetables in the dust. Just this week my 5 year old son asked if I would make a veggie plate for them before lunch. He was asking for vegetables!

Getting your picky eater to eat vegetables is not always easy. With a little creativity and consistency I believe any child can learn to love vegetables. At least some vegetables, there are vegetables that I cannot stand and that is okay, everyone is different. I ask my children to try a bite of everything on the plate whether they have tried it before and whether they like it or not. Taste buds can change!

This is a picture of a typical veggie plate for us. I try to be creative and add new vegetables from time to time like bell peppers or olives, etc. I also like to cut up cheese to add to the plate and offer ranch dressing to dip.

I consider vegetables a priority for my children's growing minds and bodies. This is a simple idea that has helped me and I hope it helps you as well!

Vegetable Soup

If you are looking for a fast and easy Lenten meal or a simple and satisfying meatless meal, you have come to the right recipe! This recipe was a creation based on what I had available in my fridge/pantry and I was pleasantly surprised by the results. My husband told me numerous times, "that soup was awesome!"


1 can diced tomatoes
1 can green beans (drained)
5 red potatoes (cubed)
6 cups chicken or vegetable broth 
4 stalks celery (diced)
handful baby carrots
half onion (diced)
2 cups cooked pasta noodles (I used gluten free)
celery salt
garlic salt

Place tomatoes, green beans, potatoes, chicken broth, celery and carrots into a large pot. Bring mixture to a boil and allow vegetables to simmer until potatoes and carrots are tender (about 20 minutes). While the vegetables are cooking, bring a small saucepan with water to a boil and cook noodles according to package directions. Once the potatoes/carrots are tender, add in your cooked and drained noodles. Next add in your seasonings, start off adding 1/8 tsp of salt, 1/2 tsp pepper, 1/4 celery salt and 1/4 garlic salt. Add more or less depending on your desired taste preference of each seasoning. This recipe is very versatile, so feel free to experiment! 

Natural Ways to Relieve Pregnancy Heartburn (Plus a Recipe!)

Years ago as a college student taking an A&P class I learned about the negative feedback loop in the body. The example the teacher used in regards to the negative feedback loop was heartburn. I am not going to explain in detail what I learned mainly because I don't remember it all! ;)

What I do remember is that when I am having heartburn/indigestion, it means my body is producing to much acid without an alarm going off. So, when I am having heartburn I need to eat acidic foods. By eating an acidic food my body will produce MORE acid and will realize that there is a problem.

Heartburn weapon number 1: I first turn to eating an apple.

If an apple does not help relieve my heartburn I turn to:
Heartburn weapon number 2: eating a lemon or drinking lemonade.

Heartburn Lemonade Recipe:

Juice of 3-4 lemons or 1/4 cup of RealLemon
Stevia (or preferred sweetener)

Juice the lemons into a single serve cup, add water and sweetener to taste. This recipe is easily adaptable. Amount of lemon juice can be changed according to how bad you feel your heartburn/indigestion is.

This recipe has always helped me with pregnancy heartburn but as a disclaimer I am not a doctor and if you are on prescription medicine, talk to your doctor first before changing your dosage or intake, etc. 

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